Addiction to pornography, help?

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Addiction to pornography, help?
My boyfriend has an addiction to porn and weve been trying to get past this part in our relationship but it constantly comes back, and this is ruining our physical part, how can I help him get over it?

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If hes truly addicted meaning that its a destructive force in his life than he has to stop cold turkey. He cant use it, cause its just too much for him to handle. Im not antiporn, but just like an alcoholic cant have just one drink, watching porn will just keep that element alive.brbrI just heard a podcast by Dan Savage relationship advice guy, and he was asked the same question. He said you just gotta quit cold turkey. There have been times in my life when I was consuming too much porn, and I made myself stop. Living with a girlfriend helps, cause the opportunity to do it is much less its much harder to quit when you live alone. As he stops looking at it, his interest in it will go down. As masturbation without porn and sex with you become his only sexual outlets, hell come to find those completely adequate.brbrHowever, if youre just making a big deal out of it cause youre not porn friendly and he is, and he really doesnt have a problem, then it might take a toll on the relationship if you make him conform to your values. You will probably find that he quotcheatedquot by looking at porn, and it will set up a bad pattern where he has to hide from you. This doesnt seem to be the case, cause you seem compassionate and not overbearing with your desire for him to stop.brbrIf its draining him of all desire then its definitely not good. However, porn doesnt take the place of intimacy in a guys mind, just like your vibrator doesnt take the place of your bfs body. Porn has a magical quality of just lighting up a place in a guys brain that turns him on its hard to describe, and Im not sure if there is a female analogue to it. What Im trying to say is, even if he cant stop right away, it doesnt have to be between you and the porn youre not in competition withh the porn. brbrIf you need any more advice, feel free to email me sorrenngmail.com